Chemistry – the amalgamation of love, romance, passion and (need I say the word) sxx. The heady feeling when mere infatuation turns into reality and your heart is touched by Love. It becomes an addiction and you don’t feel like getting over it. When you are riding high on the waves of passion who cares about the big O. Love is an enjoyment beyond sensual pleasure, expanding into the dimensions of spiritual alchemy and empowerment. The lethal combination of love, attraction, romance and passion is definitely better than sex, hands down.

“Love is Lust that develops into Trust and Friendship.” ~ Enrique Iglesias

That thing called Love
It was a love story got concocted in my life’s laboratory, magically, akin to a chemistry experiment going woefully wrong, yet producing a new component! It began with friendship and ended in Love – the ultimate destination. Being in love is like floating in a state of eternal BLISS which doesn’t fade (at least till the time it lasts). It unleashes the wild passion bringing out the untamed animal within you prowling for more. The tribulations around you somehow tend to melt in the warmth of your beloveds arms. The person acts on you like a drug. You are on an all time high when the drug is available. And when there is nothing more to say to each other just being together brings a sense of completeness and peace which cannot be found anywhere else. Such moments are the most sustained, most intense, most intimate, most satisfying sexual encounter ever experienced where you know your soul and hearts are one. The feeling is so intense that the rest of the world fades into insingnificance to the ones who are enamored by the bug called Love.

I recollect the popular song of Jagjit Singh – “Hoshwalonko Khabar Kya”:

• Hoshwalonko khabar kya Bekhudi kya cheese hai,
  Ishq kijiye phir samajhiye, Zindagi kya cheese hai……..

“Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all, never…..never forget it.” ~ Curtis Judalet

Soul mate
The truth of the matter is that one doesn’t feel this way with every person you tend to be in a relationship with. I believe such sort of “chemistry” happens once in a life time. It’s a soul mate relationship combining – on an energetic level – with someone who gives you a sense of excitement. It just takes one look to detect the longing in your beloveds eyes. Though your heart knows that there is no “happily ever after.” You tend to enjoy the status quo like two parallel lines drawn on a piece of paper – existing side-by-side but not fated to unite.

“A Soulmate is one who makes you feel complete, fills the gaps in your life and helps you relise your full potential.”

Sweet nothings in your ear……
The infatuation followed by the chase and being wooed with flowers, love songs, beautiful gifts and the very evocative lovey-dovey cards, the odd hours calls, the very unusual and secretive Miss You ringtones, the incessant pinning, the stolen kisses, the whisper of sweet nothings, that weird feeling in one’s heart and the butterflies in the tummy when mercurial intensity gazes were exchanged, the crazy promises to be with each other till eternity, the touch that makes you feel kuch kuch hota hai, the craving for more time when long hours of togetherness wane in matter of minutes, the endless cuchi cooing over the telephone, the cozy dinner and movie times, getting drenched in the rains, the crazy arguments (which began like war), the aggression and the hurt, the apparent heartbreaks and the prolonged phases of separation to the tears of apology and the sweet patch ups……..Ah!! the bitter-sweet temptations of being in Love. Our entire world revolves around our sweetheart. The way it happens when a baby is born. The only difference here is ‘Love’ is born when two souls meet (read: mate).

“A lawful Kiss is never worth a stolen one.” ~ Sellar W. C

Love actually
There’s definitely more to Love then just the sizzling passionada (I just made up that word) that’s experienced. It’s about spending the precious moments of your life with someone you love – having someone to talk to, someone to share all the good times and the bad times, someone with whom you share the eternal bond of true friendship, trust, care, compassion, connection, and a unique completeness. It’s about surpassing the litmus test of a genuine man-woman relationship, a test over long stretches of time transcending precarious terrains of love, fidelity, jealousy, insecurity over which you slip, but the other always held’s out the helping hand. Weathered and worn out, you become echoes of each other and as the norm, deeper the valley, more intricate the cervices and ravines, sharper the echo!

Attraction, passion and sex finally fade, but real Love doesn’t.

“The way to Love someone is to lightly run your finger over that person’s soul until you find a crack……and then gently pour your Love into the crack.”

Pyar ke side effects
Everyone will agree that perhaps nothing is ever quite as painful as getting over your first love. This is not just any break-up; this is the boy or girl who taught you what it means to fall in Love. Yep, after surviving heart breaks, this Rose DeWitt is still alive to express the emotions felt and the pain conquered while being in love and the aftermath when you have to walk separate paths designed by destiny. The heart break that followed was killing. It felt as if I was pushed into the dark abyss of loneliness. Yep loneliness!! Can you believe that? A pukka scorpion like me – independent, daring and confident felt lonely after a break-up which was inevitable?

For days on I felt as if I had lost a part of my body. The only difference was, I had lost a part of my heart forever. And even though I would have got it back (which I was desperately hoping at that point), I knew it would never somehow fit, the crack would always show. Loosing a loved one is a heart-wrenching experience and nothing can prepare you for that. I could now understand how people feel when they loose their precious loved one to death. The loss is irrevocable. Honestly, at that point I was not sure how I would come out of the endless gloomy days that lay ahead.

“The greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain.” ~ Jennifer Anitson

My heart will go on……
It is true that Time heals. In fact it’s one of the best healers I have ever known. Even while going through the turmoil’s of break-up I was sure someday I would get over my Ex. I believed it was only a matter of time until the day breaks and the shadows flee away. True to my words, faith and belief, my once battered, bruised and bleeding heart is now hale and hearty. And here I am kicking and alive, ready for yet another Titanic experience.

Without a backward glance……I moved on. There was no reason to look back once you have let go. Wow! spoken like a true Scorpion. I don’t miss the Jack Dawson I fell in love with as much as I did earlier, but I certainly do cherish the sweet (though fading) memories of the inevitable chemistry we once shared. A die hard romantic and optimist at heart, in spite of being through my spate of heart breaks, I do still believe in Love. And, I’m waiting for yet another Titanic to pass my way so my journey with Love blossoms all over again. I don’t mind if on board Jack Dawson’s role is now being played by the very cute, charming and disgustingly sexy looking Jerry Maguire. I’m all for it. This time around, I’m sure I would be on a Titanic, but an unsinkable one…………

“Never give up hope,
and if you can,
find the courage
to Love again.”